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Some years ago, I spent Christmas Day with a group of people. This group included Pauline, whose house we were in. We were all sitting around playing games and eating mince pies and being generally festive, when, completely by accident, someone kicked over a glass of water that was on the floor by their feet, and spilled water on the carpet. Nothing was damaged; the carpet was just a bit wet. \u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n <\/span>Pauline immediately became angry and ranted at the water-spiller, \u2018Why\u00a0 <\/span>weren\u2019t you more careful? If there\u2019s a glass of water by your feet, there\u2019s obviously a danger you\u2019ll kick it over! Why didn\u2019t you put it on the coffee table?\u2019 The water-spiller apologised, but pointed out that no harm was done because it was only water and would soon dry. Watching in astonishment, I waited for Pauline to say, \u2018Of course, sorry. It was an accident, and I don\u2019t know why I got so steamed up about it.\u2019\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n <\/span>Pauline said nothing of the sort. Instead, she reiterated that the water-spiller should have been more careful and used the coffee table \u2014 that such accidents are eminently avoidable if one simply takes care. She proceeded to sulk, and spent the next couple of hours in a tight-lipped huff, making sure that we could all see she was Not Okay.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/span>Nobody else was okay, either. It was impossible to relax and enjoy Christmas Day at Pauline\u2019s house while Pauline was behaving in this manner.\u00a0 <\/span>Then, when she finally cheered up, everyone was so relieved \u2014 including me. The extent of our unanimous relief annoyed me, because it demonstrated to me the extent to which Pauline\u2019s bad mood had kept us all suspended in a state of emotional and psychological tension.<\/span><\/p>\n <\/span>Pauline never apologised, never said, \u2018Sorry I overreacted and was so unpleasant and harsh\u2019, and (Selfie Grudge coming up \u2014 that\u2019s a grudge you hold about yourself, for anyone who hasn\u2019t read my book!), I was never brave enough to say to her, \u2018Pauline, are you aware of how often you unnecessarily allow inappropriate anger to ruin social gatherings that would otherwise be lovely and fun?\u2019\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n <\/span>Special occasions like Christmas tend to generate more grudges than ordinary occasions, and I certainly have a special \u2018Christmas Drawer\u2019 in my grudge cabinet!\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_image src=”https:\/\/sophiehannah.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/09\/big-cactus-trans-25-1.svg” _builder_version=”3.15″ max_width=”16%” module_alignment=”right”]<\/p>\n \n <\/p>\n [\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=”3.15″]<\/p>\n \nDiscover Sophie’s Grudge Type classification system in HOW TO HOLD A GRUDGE – available from all good book retailers now!<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][et_pb_row custom_padding=”50px||” _builder_version=”3.17.2″ saved_tabs=”all” global_module=”2151″][et_pb_column type=”4_4″][et_pb_text global_parent=”2151″ _builder_version=”3.17.2″ header_font=”||||||||” header_2_font=”|700|||||||” header_2_text_align=”center” header_2_font_size=”40px”]<\/p>\n [\/et_pb_text][et_pb_code global_parent=”2151″ _builder_version=”3.17.6″][ess_grid alias=”grudge”][\/et_pb_code][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section][et_pb_section bb_built=”1″ custom_padding_last_edited=”on|tablet” _builder_version=”3.15″ use_background_color_gradient=”on” background_color_gradient_start=”rgba(252,168,58,0.7)” background_color_gradient_end=”#edf1c4″ custom_margin_tablet=”0px|||” custom_margin_last_edited=”on|desktop” custom_padding_tablet=”0px|||” prev_background_color=”#ffffff”][et_pb_row background_color_1=”rgba(255,255,255,0.4)” padding_top_1=”19px” padding_right_1=”2px” padding_bottom_1=”2px” _builder_version=”3.15″][et_pb_column type=”1_2″][et_pb_text _builder_version=”3.15″ text_font=”|600|on||||||” text_text_color=”#eb5e26″ custom_margin=”||0px|” custom_padding=”|40px|0px|40px|false|true”]<\/p>\n \n\u201c<\/strong><\/em>About devastating historical events and atrocities, we often say, \u2018Never forget\u2019. 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There are plenty of new grudges born every minute – send yours to grudgescanbegood@gmail.com if you would like to share it and have it analysed! […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2192,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2189","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-how-to-hold-a-grudge"],"yoast_head":"\nOTHER GRUDGE GOODIES<\/h2>\n